Travel Life With Vân

During our course of life, we will wipe many rejections in many different types of ways. It’s really not a matter of if but truly when and where. What circumstances.

Right now, I see three major different types of rejection.

It could be…

From somebody else.

An unknown person. A human being that will probably cross your life for such a small time but will be the carrier to one or most of your insecurities. It doesn’t have to be that way. I trust that even though it’s very difficult, we can let it go.

Accordingly to Franklin and Lise : “It’s mostly never about you, they are focused on their own negative things that’s going on in their lives.” That’s right ! People are at one point in their lives self-absorbed. Sometimes, people don’t go out of this circle. You shouldn’t have to be brought into their overly self-awareness.

I learn that if people shame you in any kind of way, it’s because they want people to look at your insecurities more than to look at them or themselves. It has really nothing to do with you. You have to trust and believe that everybody has their own beauty and your are beautiful in your own way. There will be people who see that. But I will talk about that later in this journey.

From a job.

I am currently right on this path myself. You put so much time, so much effort… All that for what ? Having dozens of refusal or worst, no answers at all. Dead beat silence. But not the one you can meditate on, you know what I’m talking about. The one that messes your brain up ! I used to be so fragile and vulnerable about that. I learn my strengths and my weaknesses and started working on them.

Looking back, I wouldn’t have fought as much as I did for the jobs that I did have if I hadn’t so much failure behind me which taught me what I was doing wrong. I earn the jobs that I did because I had to have this experience. Do you know what I mean ? I am not looking back on the opportunities I could or should have but on the experiences the ones I got taught me. I was supposed to have those opportunities to know that the next one that will come will be the right one for me.

We don’t build a house just by putting the design we want there. Brick by brick we build the right home for ourselves. Another job will come around, Franklin said so well : «The wrong opportunity for you could be the right one for somebody else. » There’s a piece of cake for everybody. The hard part for me is really to learn patience and trust that I will hopefully eat dessert sooner than I thought.

From someone that you love.

This one can make the most damage throughout your life. Because it comes from someone that you let in, it comes from someone that you trust and that you give a piece of your heart. Thank God our heart is stronger than we think. I would say that it finally comes down to you. Who are you allowing to have an affect on your life ? Who are you giving power or control over your feelings ?

We are human beings, therefore social and carrying of others. It’s up to you to decide who you are letting access to what we call your private garden, your brain, your heart, your soul. You are the one in possession of your intimacy. If someone plays with your emotions or willingly hurt you in any kind of way, it’s up to you to push them away from your private zone. You have to make the difference between the people that you allow into your life and the ones that comes in and take whatever the hell they want.

Life is full of mistakes, roads and different paths that we need to endure and experience to find our true goal, our dream, our happiness. It wouldn’t be as rewarding if it was simple. If it wasn’t difficult, we couldn’t make the distinction between success and failure.

As much as it hurts now, while living it, push through. I truly believe it was made for a reason. We wouldn’t be doing this otherwise.

It all comes down to one action, one word, one movement. Think about it, if this didn’t happen, it could not have you lead to the moment you felt happy. Accept rejection and move on.

Because once that door is open… You are going to rush towards it like your life depends on it. And the wheel would turn into the place where it wouldn’t mean anything to look back because what you have in front of you is so intense and mesmerizing that the past that still exist in your mind would not hurt as much as it did.