I love being alone ! I love it. It’s a time that I cherish for myself. It doesn’t mean that I am not sociable or that I don’t love you, it means that I enjoy being in my own company.
To me, there is a difference between being alone and feeling lonely. For example, I quit everything in France to travel for a bit to find a place that I would see myself living in. A place where I could find a job, where I would feel like home and start building my career.
I travel by myself with the savings that I made from previous jobs.
People tend to be impress by that. The fact that a young woman would travel the world on her own. Figuring out what she wants to do with her life.
I am not that shocked with the image though. Mostly because while traveling, I’ve got the chance to meet women from all over the world knowing what it feels like. Being in a place where you don’t see a future, where the only perspectives are sad or not challenging enough.
If taking your life in your own hands is brave, than I hope there’s a lot of brave people out there.
Funny fact though, we were a lot of young women by ourselves and Lise and I noticed that guys were in contrary coming per group. So, shout out to all the ladies boss out there !
As you can see, I rarely tend to feel lonely. There’s always someone out there to meet, to talk to, to connect with. Thank God I was bless to meet you Lise !
Although, when the solitude means that I am overthinking, making bad decisions or keeping harping on about stuff that doesn’t really matter, I just go and reach out to my loved ones, friends or family. People that known me for a while and with whom I can confide in. Because they already are building the kind of life they want for themselves.
That’s why to me you need to be on your own.
Being alone allows you to take time from your own life to truly know yourself. To reflect on what you want in life, to understand what you would like to do. You can take a few minutes, to a day, some of us need few hours, sometimes weeks, months or more. And it’s ok.
I use that time to be truly independent. I feel like it’s empowering me. Because I know that I can live on my own, do a bunch of things by myself and more importantly take care of me for once in my life.
It doesn’t mean that I don’t want to have the people that I love surrounding me, it means that I invest time on knowing myself.
It’s like a « training » process.
What do you like ? What are your goals ? What makes you happy ? Ten years from now, how do want your life to look like ?
There is no wrong answer, you can decide whatever you want for yourself because you are alone ! You don’t need to compromise yet on what your dreams are and the way to achieve them.
During this process, you learn more about yourself, your capacities, your weaknesses, your strengths, the things you have to work on.
That way you can make a plan for your life.
What do you have to do to achieve your goals ?
And you will figure out a way to gain all the arms you need to get through this beautiful but difficult life.
Because you guys ! It’s a jungle out there. The world is messed up in this amazing “fireworks” way.
You have to be prepare to fight back.
This time of growth allows you that.
So, how about you ? How much time do you invest on yourself ? What do you do when you’re alone ?
Travel Life With Vân 