Travel Life With Vân

We aren’t talking about the day where we take a little extra care of our garden of Eden ladies. Today most of us are eating sweets.

Doesn’t matter the reason, we were programmed that way since we were kids. This now cultural commercial tradition divides our behavior in two distinct categories. The ones that fall into deep end in this day celebrating the partner that they care about, and the ones that rightfully think and expect to be treated with attention, care and love all the days invested in the relationship. Just because one day could be a little more special than the others doesn’t mean you do not deserve to be treated like a Queen for the rest of the days you are spending together.

Nowadays, it does feel like our standards got lower though. In a generation following the liberation of sexual expression, we wrongly accept to settle down on our power. Just because we grow and evolve doesn’t mean the basic rules don’t apply.

You are still beautiful. You are still caring. You are still loving.

You deserve to be treated right, with respect and in the good intention to protect you.

And I understand, it’s hard to believe that there are still guys out there who will make you feel that extra special.

Because I believe that there are two kinds of women in our World : the ones that men love and the ones that they just use. Because I think I fall despite myself in this last category.

So today, I wanted to give a little bit of hope to the women in the other box. You can still find a man out there that is going to treat you with the respect, the admiration and the kindness that you deserve. I saw it recently in Louis.

Because he thinks that getting together with Camille was a balance between timing, the right moment for him to settle down and meeting the right person for him that will be compatible with him as much physically as intellectually. And that incredible sex equate to amazing intimacy, connection between minds wise.

According to Louis, love was not much of a choice. When you meet the right person, it triggers something in your body and your mind. And then, you just know. And then you invest yourself. Because after the attraction of the beginning of a new relationship, where everything is shinny and bright and exciting, reality finds its way and the choice is yours.

Someone once wrote : « You like because, you love despite. »

You are attracted, you appreciate, you adore someone for her wonderful personality and you love them despite some of their flaws.

The work starts when you decide to hold on to the amazing partner you have found, because everybody has their own stories, their own experiences, their own heartaches.

And while actually refusing to be part of my digital generation of dating where boys learn to be cowards instead of becoming men, when seeing and noticing Louis behavior towards Camille, I thought it would do you good to imagine what I had the incredible luck to witness.

A man that is caring, that protects, that professes and shows his love. A man that works hard to provide for a life with his woman, his mermaid, his ladylove. A man that will do and act however he has to to make the love of his life feel better, feel his love for her.

Because a man that shows in every little details how much he cares is the one you love. Compared to the one that talks a lot and never acts on his words.

Because the one that completes you is the one that lifts you up and carry you when you can’t walk, that gives you a hand when you are looking for your balance and the story you had keeps you from reaching your full potential.

Because you want a man, the one that will treat you like the exceptional Goddess that you are.

So yes, if you are here reading my articles, those words are written to hopefully give you strength, proclaiming your independence, your womanhood. But once in a while, you could stumble upon a man like Louis, who will be the one that will help you and support you to be the best version of yourself. You could find a man that is willing to put his own needs on a second plan and try everything he can to give you everything that will make you happy.

And this is fine.

It doesn’t mean that you’ll be less powerful or too vulnerable. It means that you could take a leap of faith, put yourself out there and willing to jump in the unknown.

Because it could be a total crash… or one of the best adventure of your path.