Travel Life With Vân

As I said last time, I started working at a flowers farm. While working and figuring out what could I possibly write this week, Thais and I were joking around to find a new topic…

Women are like flowers.

They are beautiful and they smell amazing. You can find them in a huge range of different sizes and shapes. They are colorful and each of them stand out. When they do, they stand with grace. They are delicate yet strong. Desirable and seductive.

And if you read me, you want to grow as I am learning too to become a strong, independent and bold woman.

I used to not pay that much attention to flowers, I was boyish when I grew up and the delicateness of what they represented at the time for me was a sign of weakness. Until recently, I thought having this fragility in my character would be a sign of weakness too. Because life is difficult and you need strong tools to be able to survive it. You need to toughen up if you want to resist whatever she is throwing at you. You need to barricade yourself to not break your heart and soul. That is why I couldn’t help but feel like being vulnerable is showing a sign of weakness. And we all know that in this modern Kingdom World, the weak is not the one that is lasting nor going far.

But it’s not true, I was wrong.

Only brave women are strong enough to show their vulnerability after being hurt. Because the only certainty in life is that you are going to get hurt at one point. And the variables you can’t possibly predict are how much, how bad and for how long.

Having my fair share of pain growing up, I wouldn’t want to understand why while knowingly certain that going in a relationship, you will get hurt, people do it anyway. So I learnt to be very mean, to any boy, guy or man. To protect myself and not get willingly hurt. Of course, I still ended up feeling pain. And getting the chance to talk to Camille about it, I opened my mind to a new perspective.

The thing is, for most people, it is what life is all about. Letting someone in, somebody that affects you and makes you learn and grow. And it’s ok to be vulnerable to the wrong person and to feel pain and to experience something new. Because if you keep your guard up at all times, you don’t have the power to rise from difficulty or to grow from a new kind of support.

When a woman shows her vulnerability to someone, you have to remember that she only shows it to someone very special. She truly believes at that moment that letting this partner into her life will bring her that extra joy everybody is talking about. But like flowers, you have to learn the right approach to get her.

In this article, remember, women are like flowers. Because everybody has baggages, as flowers have leaves around them. They grow with them and in a way, they protect them from future heartache.

When you pick a flower, you need to be careful when wrapping your fingers around her. But if you really want her, you need to hold on tight to her to not let her slip away. You have to balance between letting her have space to breathe and developing herself and carry her close to you without crashing her. It takes experience, patience and dexterity.

With this safe environnement, the woman will be brave enough to let her shine her magic. And with that, embrace her vulnerability and give the most precious thing she could ever give, a part of herself.

And that is brave.

And there is not enough gold in this universe to be able to afford that.