I am sure that I am not the only one on this.
I am attracted by the ones who doesn’t want me and I am not interested by the ones who want to be with me. Story of most of us life.
Why do we inflict this waste of time on us ? Is it because we are so overwhelmed by our emotions, our hormones that we become blind on what’s really happening right before our eyes ? Are we missing the signs ? The real message that they are trying to tell us ? How can we know if he’s attracted by us or not ?
If he’s not presenting you to his friends, co workers or family…
He’s just using you. Either for sex, either for whatever you do that a girlfriend or a wife would do. Basically whatever you are generously doing that have to be an « us » thing instead of a «you » and « I » thing. He’s just not committed to you.
If he’s thoughtful, buying things or doing stuff that know would help you, make your life easier or simply want to indulge you…
You should probably get a little bit interested on what he has to offer as a person. Meaning, if you like his personality, his character and his way of handling life because this one is trying to show you how he can take care of you.
If he’s not spending that much time with you, getting to know you…
To be fair, I am not that much of a sticky person. I like my independence and my « me time ». But if you feel like he’s trying to avoid you or getting in touch only for something… If he cares to spend more time, like way more time, with his friends or on his own than being with you… he’s definitely not that hooked on you.
If he’s willing to change his plans and follow you around the world…
You won’t find somebody who can show you how committed they are to you.
If he’s only nice to you when you guys are alone, if he acts like he doesn’t know you or avoid eye contact with you pretending you don’t know each other in front of other people…
He either feels ashamed to have any kind of intimacy with you or he’s hiding something. Either way, get as far away as possible from this individual, he’ll never be good enough for you.
If he’s constantly trying to spend time with you…
If he can’t stop being next to you, if he can’t stop trying to talk to you, to learn more about you. If he’s looking to lock eyes, searching for touch, seeking your attention… You are in a good way to have a guy falling head over heals for you.
Did you ever experience those situations ? Did you ever notice those kind of things ? Have you ever paid attention to what they were trying to say ?
We all know that guys are not really great at communicating and because we are smarter, it’s incumbent on us to decipher their weird language.
But even if you find yourself in either of those examples, remember that you are the one with the power to let him have access to your body or your heart. Because…
If he’s not into you…
There’s millions of boys and men out there. If this one doesn’t like you, I promise you, somebody will see you for you and your true value. Like Phil, they will be humble enough to recognize how lucky they are to even be able to kiss you. I see it everyday.
If he is attracted by you…
We are talking about the outside but more importantly the inside here. Then, you have to figure out for yourself if this guy is good enough for you, if he’s expectations of life suits yours and if he’s worth investing your time in him.
Because everybody should be loved and there’s someone for everyone of us. I hope you’ll get your epic love story, until then, we should definitely enjoy the ride !
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