At dawn of the year 2019, sexuality becomes less and less taboo. Nowadays, the act is something that we talk about anytime of the day, with or without liquid courage, sometimes with people that we barely know.
But what term do you use to describe the act ? And why ?
Do you say you have sex, do you get laid, sleep with somebody ? Do you fuck ? Are you making love ? Do you bang or shag ? Nail or hook up ?
When asking guys about this question, and as their eyes light up and give more and more attention to the subject, they uniformly respond as they would want to seem more « cool » talking about it. It seems to give them some kind of privileged status among their squad.
Ladies also seem to lash out on the subject, setting themselves free from some kind of misconception about women’s pleasure that prevented us from expressing our desires as sex was a topic so repressed for the longest time among every cultures.
So in this revolution of expressing our minds, how do we talk about IT ? Is that a matter of age ?
Universally, we all get to a phase where because we are so young and we don’t know any better, we slam words just to look more experienced than we really are. Truth is, we barely to little to know what to do and how to do it… And most of all, how it will really be happening.
Is it different depending on your sex ?
There’s no secrets there, a group of only dudes hanging out will tend to talk much more harsh between them. The good old testorestone factor. Who’s got the bigger one and who can last longer.
Let me tell you ! We all know how long it last at first !
Of course, in the same way to impress their friends, guys tend to talk more smoothly when around ladies they want to buy themselves a ticket with a potential one night stand with subtle gestures or universal signs body language.
Among ladies, at least the ones I talked with, sex is a good relationship bond between us girls. Chatting and sharing everything to learn more, try again and feel better. But it’s my side of the story, and the women I surround myself with are more into having sex whether as a way to « get ride of the steam » in all kind of way or creating a stronger bond between them and the one that they love.
Then the way you are talking about sex, could it change with the commitment you put yourself into ? Meaning your status of relationship ?
If you are in a relationship, does the Hollywood image you want to portray affect the way you speak about sex ? Does it makes you more gentle ? Romantic with your words or at least less « savage ».
On the contrary, being single, you take more liberty with the way you handle things… Because you are not attached emotionally to the man.
Or is it a question of Romanticism ?
Do you talk about sex in a way you put it more “beautifully” than it is in reality ? Even though it feels good to be touched, feel attractive to the man you are about to let see you in your most vulnerable state, are you more incline to let yourself go with sweet words and a little bit of wooing ?
Maybe it is a matter of respect or showing at least some of it.
The way you talk about the act contrast the modernity to this primal state of our nature. It’s like the position you prefer during sex, it tells something about you and your partner.
However you call doing IT, you should get busy, have fun while staying safe and experience as much as you feel like it. It can be a good way to get to know what you like, to fulfill your maybe hidden desires or to simply look for the sweet sensation of an orgasm. Whatever it is, which ever reason you call it That Way, hopefully we’ll all have incredible stories to tell !
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