I met this Scandinavian guy in Dublin, Ireland, last week. In the hostel we were in, there were lots of creepy dudes. And he ended up sharing some boy’s thoughts with me. Here’s one of them.
When a « man » meets a woman it all comes down to one thing and one thing only : sexual attraction.
A dude is going to try again and again to have access to your panties and until he reaches his goal, he will not surrender.
For most guys, women are perceive as this pure, nice and loving kind that we all are born with. And until we show the dragon that’s waiting asleep inside of our crazy minds, there’s nothing that holds them against keeping on trying to get to our panties.
For a woman who are traveling alone, we have to be a little bit extra careful when it comes down to our own security. There are a lot of advantages for us when we are travelling but because we are women, even though some mentalities are evolving, we are still consider as weak and easy to be a prey instead of the hunter.
We have to prevent from having to defend ourselves. So we have to activate that dark power that we grow to learn. Meanness.
I used to be so uncomfortable being mean « with no obvious » reason.
The truth is, with experience, you can sense a douchebag from afar.
It is ok to be mean then.
Because at whatever age you are, you don’t have to waste time on someone that’s not going to make you grow.
You don’t have to inflict yourself with some unnecessary pain because you feel bad for the dude.
He may seems « nice » but he is only thinking about one thing ! Remember that.
Because they will think of anything and everything they can to get what they really want, which is getting laid, while you just want to interact or not, even minding your own business and not wanting attention at all, some dudes will try to force their presence on you.
So if they try for any reason to talk to you, if you are not interested, you don’t have to put up with any kind of behavior they might have.
Being mean so we don’t have to endure those fuckers (sorry for the bad word, it’s pretty accurate though) is totally fine because we have to be able to protect ourselves on our own.
If you are in luck and find someone who suits you, go ahead and have fun ! But do not ever, in any circumstances, make yourself do something that deep down, you know, you really don’t want to do.
But this Scandinavian dude make me realize one important thing.
I don’t have to feel ashamed or embarrassed to say no in case I hurt their feelings. I won’t be impolite just because I don’t want to hang out with a dude. I won’t be damaging my soul because I’m true to myself and honest with them. I just realize that nice honesty is not something their brain can understand. But meanness, being rude, they get that. So to get ride of a detrimental being, it’s ok to be mean to them.
I also realize how messed up this thought is. Why can they understand clearly that when we say no, it means NO ? How come we have to call them names, get our bitch look on and yell for them to be able to understand ? What’s wrong with them ?
What was I saying ?
Oh right, if you are nice, learning to exist in this crazy world, you are going to cross path with all different types of « men » out there. Some will be genuinely decent and understand that they are not the one for you and will go on with their lives. But some of them will misbehave, be childish about it and kind of stalkery. It is you own right to get ride of them with means necessary.
You are a beautiful, intelligent, interesting, emotional woman and it is your right to choose the people you surround yourself with. Get ride of the parasites in your life and concentrate on the ones that bring you love, respect and growth. Because you are worth it, and you deserve better.
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